Episode 136 · March 19, 2024
Building an incredible marriage with Relationship Coach, Sandy Redmond
with Sandy Redmond, Certified Relationship Coach
36 min
Building an incredible marriage with Relationship Coach, Sandy Redmond
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In this episode I sit down with Sandy Redmond, a Laura Doyle certified relationship coach who works exclusively with women. Sandy and I actually met in the most unexpected way — over coffee on a patio, petting her adorable dog — and I just knew I didn't want to miss the chance to get to know her. That "God connection" turned into this beautiful conversation, and I'm so glad it did.
Sandy is raw and vulnerable here. She shares that even after 35 years of marriage, it wasn't always easy. About seventeen years in, with four small children and a heart full of perfectionism, she sat at her kitchen table weeping, unsure if she wanted to keep going. What changed everything wasn't her husband — it was her willingness to shift her own focus, take responsibility for her own life, and rewire her mindset toward the good that was already there.
We talk about self-care that actually fills you up, understanding how our husbands are wired, and the power of vision to pull you toward the life you truly want. I love that Sandy's story reminds us there's always room to grow — whether your marriage is thriving or struggling. Keep going.
Key takeaways
- Vision drives change. When Sandy got clear on the life-giving, passionate marriage she truly wanted, the resources and answers started showing up in her life.
- Coaching focuses forward. Unlike counseling that centers on past hurts, Sandy's approach asks 'Where do you want to go and who do you want to be?' — then works backward to get there.
- Self-care isn't frivolous — it's the oxygen mask. You can't give from an empty cup, so pursue the things that genuinely bring you joy (for Sandy, it was joining a beginners' tennis group).
- Happy people are magnetic. When Sandy started having real fun, her husband wanted in — he ended up joining her on the tennis court.
- Get off your spouse's paper. When you stop trying to change someone else and take responsibility for your own life, you free them to grow on their own — Sandy's husband eventually got his own coach.
- What you focus on grows. Sandy journaled evidence of every little thing her husband did to make her happy — 58 pages in three months — and it transformed how she saw him.
- The ripple effect is real. Doing the inner work didn't just change Sandy's marriage; it changed her relationships with her adult children too.
Chapters
- 00:00Vision and welcome
- 02:30How Nancy and Sandy met over coffee
- 04:00Getting to know Sandy: SoCal to Tulsa, family and faith
- 06:30Coaching vs. counseling — and why she works with women
- 08:30Falling in love with Tim and starting a family
- 12:00The hard years: perfectionism, criticism, and a kitchen-table low point
- 16:00The turning point: choosing to make it work
- 18:00The book and skills that shifted everything
- 22:00Tip 1: Self-care that fills you up
- 25:00Tip 2: Understanding that men want to make us happy
- 27:00The 58-page journal of appreciation
- 31:00Getting off his paper and the ripple effect on family
- 34:00How to work with Sandy
- 36:00Growing more in 2024: appreciation and gratitude
“I really believe that vision is a huge driver of giving us what we really want and desire.”
“You have to put on the oxygen mask of self-care. When we take care of ourselves, we become magnetic.”
“When you're on somebody else's paper, you're not taking responsibility for your own life.”
“Whatever you're seeking is what you'll see. If you're seeking the negative, that's what you'll see. If you're seeking the positive, that's what you'll see.”
About Sandy
Certified Relationship Coach
Sandy Redmond is a Laura Doyle certified relationship coach who works exclusively with women, coaching clients over Zoom from around the world. Born and raised in Southern California, she moved to Tulsa as a junior in high school and never looked back. She and her husband Tim have been married 35 years and have four adult children. After reaching a low point about halfway through her marriage, Sandy learned skills that transformed her relationship — and now helps other women create the marriages they truly want.
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